Monday, October 22, 2012
Week 10 - Post 2
After reading chapter ten’s topic about forgiveness and revenge, I can definitely apply it to my current life. I thought it was very strange that reading this chapter came at this specific moment in my life. There isn’t a specific event in my life right now that I find difficult to forgive, it’s more like a series of small events. One of my guy friends has been extremely rude to me lately, which normally wouldn’t bother me, but I have helped this guy with his homework numerous times and picked him up from bars multiple times as well. I’ve helped him out a on a plethora of occasions and now he is being extremely rude to me, yet still asks for favors/help, for no reason. Earlier today, I was actually thinking of what I could do to be rude back to him, but then I read this chapter and it seriously helped. I realized I need to be the bigger person, and by simply not responding or walking away will be revenge enough. It’s a little difficult to forgive someone who is still in the process of being mean, but I’m sure it will pass and I will eventually forgive him.
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Hey California girl,
ReplyDeleteLike you I can totally apply this chapter with my life right now. I think at times I would think like you too. There are people in my life that I do things for but they don’t treat me like how I should be treated. I understand how it is hard to forgive someone who is being mean to us. Sometimes I would think about how I can get back at them or even simply just stop helping them out. But I know that I need to forgive them because I remember how when I really need them they will be there for me. Anyways, once again good job this week on your posts!
Hey California Girl,
ReplyDeleteIsn't it always fun when you read something that hits your right where you are at? I can certainly understand your frustration with your guy friend, it sounds like you're fed up with being treated that way. And you should be! Now the challenge is what are you going to do? You talked about wanting to get revenge, which seems appealing in the moment, but what if you used your conflict management skills and confronted him? Yeah, I hear you, it sounds a little scary and you're afraid it might hurt your relationship. But seriously, feeling frustrated about the way he's treating you and not telling him why you're frustrated is already hurting your relationship. I would advise you to practice your I-Statements and explain your feelings, then it's up to him what he wants to do.
Hope it works out - Kenzie Marie
Reading this post was very interesting to me. I showed the effects of learning. After reading the book and studying this material it helped you apply it to your own life. We have impulses and want to do things that pop in our head but with knowledge we can be sure to make the right decisions. Forgiveness and being a better person are all things that we can learn. I am happy to know that along with me there are many other people learning from this class and actually using it in their personal lives. Great post and hope everything works out for you and your friend.
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