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the beginning of chapter eight, anger is defined as “a strong feeling of
displeasure, a synonym for antagonism and rage”. The synonyms used show the
range of emotions that one can potentially feel when they get angry. I feel
that I use a combination of anger-outs, or blowing up, and ventilation
approach, or expressing my anger calmly. When I experience something that
angers me, I tend to look like I am going to blow up. My eyes get very wide and
I have insane eye contact with people. Usually, I have a miniature outburst
such as saying, “What?” just to understand the problem more clearly. I think
that small reaction I have at the beginning almost calms me down because after
that I am able to have a conversation with a person in a calm manner, even if
they are yelling. The outcome of expressing my anger this way can either cause
the other person to blow up because of the fact that I appear that I might blow
up, or the other person could have fear because of the fact that I look like I
might blow up.
Hey great post! I extremely like how you brought up that when someone is feeling anger there is a number of emotions that someone could be feeling. Anger is not a simple emotion which is why many people have different ways of expressing anger. We are very different when it comes to how we express our anger. I understand how you get and it would scare me but everyone has their own way of expressing themselves. I would just never do anything to put you in a bad mood. Although when it comes to your small reactions or lack of words in your responses I find that we are similar. I agree that it can help calm me down and also the other person involved.
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ReplyDeleteAfter reading your post, I feel like I'm very similar in the way I react when I'm angry. I'm usually a person that can stay fairly calm during bouts of anger, however, I do have occasional blow ups. When dealing with a situation where I'm angry, I also have extreme eye contact, almost to the point where I make the other individual uncomfortable. I feel like I always ask, "what?" as well and it does really calm me down. I'm someone that doesn't like to keep my anger inside as this would make me feel like I was on edge all the time. It was interesting to see how similar we were in regards to how we handle anger. Nice post.
Hi California Girl, I really enjoyed reading your answer to this question. It was interesting to read the assigned chapters this week. Learning about anger, anger-outs and blowing up were interesting. You discussed how you react when you are angry and I can definitely relate. Anger is not an emotion that anyone wants to feel because it is mentally and physically exhausting. I have also noticed that anger is an emotion that takes a great deal of energy. I also liked reading about how you were very honest with answering this question. Overall I think you did a great job and keep up the nice work!
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