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I’m thinking when others talk always depends on if I have taken the time to
“stop” and take myself away from the situation for a minute. If I did not take
the time to remove myself, I revert back to how I would handle conflicts when I
was younger, I would listen to the other person, but I wouldn’t really hear
what they were saying. Their words just go in one ear and out the other. This
is what makes that stopping time very crucial. If I have taken the time to
remove myself for a short time, I am able to really listen and actually hear
what the other person is saying. I am always prepared to say how I feel and
stick up for my opinion, but I am very ready to make an effort to understand
where they are coming from. It always helps me to think that I would want them
to understand where I’m coming from, so I always make the effort to recognize
their views.
Hey there!
ReplyDeleteI admit that it is very hard for me to listen to someone when I am in an argument with him or her. Most of the time I would zone them out because I just do not want to hear what they have to say because I am already mad at them. In most cases now I do listen because I have grown up to realized how important that is. By listening to the other person it gives me time to take a breath and just calm down. Sometimes listening does help to solve the conflict sooner since I am willing to be more open in the other person’s opinions. Listening can also make the conversation more effective. By the way good job on posts this week!
California Girl,
ReplyDeleteOnce again an outstanding post I truly enjoy reading them! This is a lesson for everyone to learn about taking a moment to truly hear another person out instead of pretending to listen but not fully grasping what they are saying. In order for conflict in general to be solved we have to listen to the other person even if we do not wish to hear what they have to say out of frustration. I think a great example would be our parents because as much as we love them they always seem to get mad at us for something and therefore conflict arises. Furthermore they often in these cases have a lot to say about how they feel about a particular situation but yet we do not want to hear what they have to say because I believe we often have our own feelings and when they do not agree with us it is very frustrating because they are our parents and we want them to fully stand behind us. However like you elaborated on we have to recognize their views and values in order to see their feelings and for them to fully see where we are coming from so we are not being unreasonable in a situation. Great post!
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ReplyDeleteI want to start off by letting you know this was a pretty good blog. I am kind of the same with you on this topic. For me it depends on whether or not I am fully engaged in the conversation. If I am fully engaged I can remember pretty much everything in the conversation. But, if I am not fully engaged, like you said "everything goes in one year and out the other." I think what you said about having a stop time and allow yourself to take yourself out of a situation is very crucial. Overall, I really liked this post and I thought you had very interesting and good points.
Hi California Girl,
ReplyDeleteI loved when you wrote, "I would listen to the other person, but I wouldn’t really hear what they were saying." This is such an important point, because we can be listening and not thinking about what we are going to say next, but still not be fully grasping it. You're so right about stopping and just soaking in what they are saying, and that's so important if we want to be better communicators. We still need to be able to have our opinions and be able to have a meaningful conversation, but we need to be able to tune our thoughts out and listen to the other's opinions. Like you said, put yourself in their shoes, and I know that we all want to be listened to! Great post, very insightful!
I like the idea of taking yourself away and in a sense putting yourself in to someone eles's shoes. That seems like something that is hard for a lot of people to do which created a big probelm in communication.
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