After
ready about what S-TLC is, I think that more people should know about it so
that they are able to handle conflicts in a calm manner. The “S” is S-TLC
stands for “stop”. The textbook describes stopping as taking a time out. There
are 4 key points, or advice, for stopping: exiting temporarily, sipping a
beverage, counting backwards from 100, or changing the problematic topic. Each
one of those leads back to taking a time out, or taking your mind away from the
situation at hand to regroup your thoughts. I think that taking a moment to
regroup allows yourself to calm down and clear your head of a lot of
negativity. I have become much better throughout my college years at “stopping”.
Although it is difficult at times to follow this step, it is always worth it in
the end because compromise and positive outcomes always follow. I prefer to
exit temporarily and be alone for a few minutes to calm and collect my
thoughts. After this “time out”, I’m also more able to calm the other person as
well. “Stopping” is a very crucial part in conflict.
Hey California Girl,
ReplyDeleteI totally agree. The 'stopping' part of conflict management is extremely important. If we continue going full speed ahead with the conflict it can escalate out of control and become worse than it ever needed to be. I like that you said 'stopping' was taking your mind off of the situation. I think that's important too, because that's how we are able to view things in perspective a little bit more. I also tend to actually leave the situation for a little while in order to process. That's how I do it.
Thanks for posting - Kenzie Marie
Hello California Girl, you did a great job with answering this question. I agreed with a lot of what you said. In the beginning of your response you said that more people should know about S-TLC so that they would be able to handle their conflicts in a much calmer manner. I think that you are correct. If more people took the time to stop and gather their thoughts in a productive way rather than just go off because they are in a conflict, things would go much smoother during disagreements. I too have gotten better at “stopping” during my college years. I think this has to do with taking communications courses and trying to become an effective communicator.
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