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think there are blurry lines that divide punishment from discipline in a parent
and child relationship. Punishment is such a harsh term, and I typically
associate that word with the self-centered orientation of conflict. When I
imagine a parent punishing a child, I think of the parent yelling at their
child about what they did wrong and how they will pay for their mistakes. Whereas
when I think of parent disciplining their child, I think of the parent calming
telling or discussing with the child what they did wrong, why they did it, and
maybe grounding the child. I would consider “getting grounded”, or getting a
“time-out” for a younger child, is a way to reprimand, not exactly punish, them
for a mistake. I think people overstep their paternal authority to punish their
children when they become passive-aggressive or aggressive. That can lead to
abuse, whether it is physical or verbal.
Hi California Girl,
ReplyDeleteGood job on your post. I would agree with you that there is a blurry line that divides punishment from discipline in a parent and child relationship. When I thought of punishing a child, I thought of a parents yelling at their child as well. I like how you said that a parent might yell at their child and tell them that they will pay for their mistakes. I have seen a parent before actually say that to their child in a store once and it was not a pretty thing to watch. It made me feel sorry for the kid. Disciplining to me is also done more calmly and talking to the child in a compassionate way to help them fix their mistakes. Some parents do overstep their parental authority when punishing their child and it can be abuse. Great job on your post.
California girl,
ReplyDeleteI would agree with you that there is a blurry line that divides punishment from discipline. I think part of the reason this line is blurry too is punishment and discipline can also vary from culture to culture. So, what we see in America as harsh punishment maybe in foreign countires they see that as normal, and who are we to criticize them? That is their society norms, and their culture value.
I think that you brought up a good point about punishment being similar to self-centered orientation, because I feel like that is a great analogy. I also see punishment as, the parent saying I win, you loose, and not listening to what the kid has to say. Verse discipline seems more appropriate because you are disciplining your child and expressing consequences to them. The word punishment has a more verbally abusive stigma.