After
reading chapter 3 in the textbook, I feel that I tend to deal with conflict
through the relationship-centered orientation. I am in a sorority on campus,
where I hold the position of Director of Scholarship, so I am in charge of
everyone’s grades. There are occasional conflicts that occur with girls who are
on academic probation and their punishments, which forces me into conflicts if,
for example, someone disregards their probation punishment. I have gotten very
good at handling conflicts through the relationship-centered orientation
because I need to consider how the other person feels, yet still hold my ground
and hold the girls to their punishments and decisions they make. I am
definitely satisfied with the outcome of the conflicts when I use this
orientation because I am able to be an understanding sister as well as show
them that I am very serious about enacting their punishments and keeping them
in check. I also try to favor this orientation all the time because I think it
is the most effective in the conflicts that I get into.
Hey California girl,
ReplyDeleteGood response in regards to what type of orientation you use when there is conflict. I really liked how you used an example from your own life and what you do to resolve conflict. I also use the relationship center orientation for most of my relationships. Whether it is friend, employee, teacher, or personal relationship to solve conflict. I also agree that using the relationship-centered orientation is most successful. I feel that it maintains a good and healthy relationship after you resolve conflict with the other person. However, there has been rare situations where using this approach was not as successful as I would like. Anyways, thanks for sharing!
Once again California Girl I love all of your posts and definitely relate them easily to my own life. I am going to again relate what you said to dance because on the side of dancing I am also am an assistant teacher to the young students at the school my company is at. The relationship-centered orientation approach is certainly something that has worked for me in working with young children because like you said you have to keep in mind their personal feelings but at the same time remain professional to your job position. For example I have to tell the kids that if I give them a verbal direction or a correction in ballet class this is my job to do so. I especially have to tell them this when I tell them in a serious tone to stop talking during class or rehearsal be it that I am not trying to mean and have nothing against them it is strictly business. By doing this I feel like they listen more and are very eager to follow your command because you are being professional and at the same time being someone they can look up to. Great job once again! :)
ReplyDeleteHi California Girl,
ReplyDeleteI think you came up with a good way of looking at your conflict orientation. It sounds like with the position you hold in your sorority there are times when you have to deal with conflict in an unavoidable way. I think that is when we see what we are really made of. As a leader of so many females, who have become your friends and sisters, I could see how conflict could be difficult. Using the relationship oriented conflict style probably helps to deal with the situation, but not harm the friendships you have developed by getting personal and aggressive. It sounds like you've got it all figured out - nicely done.
**Kenzie Marie